Prayers for Bobby

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00:00:21 O God I need you too.
00:00:24 I want to see your face.
00:00:27 It is this love I have
00:00:31 It makes me search for you.
00:00:36 I need you to listen,
00:00:39 I need you to answer.
00:00:42 I need you to listen,
00:00:45 I need you to answer.
00:00:50 Do not avoid my eyes
00:00:56 Do not toss me aside.
00:01:00 O God, do not drop me.
00:02:27 Alright you two.
00:02:34 I like her.
00:02:35 I think she likes you.
00:02:37 What tells you that Mum?
00:02:42 Here you go Mum.
00:02:51 This is such a nice day.
00:02:52 Who knows this?
00:02:54 May those who love you,
00:02:55 be like the sun when it rises in its strength.
00:02:58 Corinthians?
00:02:59 Judges 5:31.
00:03:03 So grandma, how old are you again?
00:03:04 Never mind.
00:03:06 You know you shouldn't ask for the age...
00:03:11 That's very nice!
00:03:14 Save some for me, will you?
00:03:19 That's very nice!
00:03:20 Who's that from?
00:03:22 From you and Mary!
00:03:24 Well correct!
00:03:26 I was just testing.
00:03:28 Remember Mum?
00:03:29 We were at the mall
00:03:31 and you said you liked that.
00:03:33 So I went back and I got it for you.
00:03:35 Nancy honey, get me my purse.
00:03:38 Why am I always the one harassed to get the purse?
00:03:42 Youngest Griffith girl's the purse mule.
00:03:44 O Grandma.
00:03:45 Open mine.
00:03:46 Why do I have to be the purse mule?
00:03:49 Ok. Fine.
00:03:53 Yes, I think it suits me.
00:03:55 What do you guys think?
00:03:57 Grandma, that is a lovely shade of lipstick.
00:03:59 Beautiful!
00:04:00 O Ed stop it.
00:04:01 Why? What's wrong Mum?
00:04:03 It's disgusting.
00:04:05 If you ask me,
00:04:06 queers should all be
00:04:09 Didn't you say that last year
00:04:12 What did you say?
00:04:14 Never mind.
00:04:16 What is this?
00:04:18 It's a journal.
00:04:19 Like a diary.
00:04:20 I don't need any more stuff.
00:04:26 Mum!
00:04:28 - What?
00:04:29 It's a good thing we didn't
00:04:32 You can't take it personal.
00:04:34 It's grandma.
00:04:35 You know the rules. She’s mean sometimes.
00:04:38 Bobby, she picks at me.
00:04:41 Nobody ever picks on you. You're the favourite.
00:04:45 So what's it like to be perfect?
00:04:48 I'm perfect?
00:04:49 You think I'm perfect?
00:04:51 Have you looked in a mirror lately?
00:04:56 Can I have it?
00:04:59 You don't want it.
00:05:00 Well, I'm taking it.
00:05:01 I'm going to fill this up in a week.
00:05:04 Come on. Let's go celebrate grandmas'
00:05:19 I am ready.
00:05:20 What?
00:05:21 I want to go further.
00:05:26 Is... Is something wrong?
00:05:30 Here? I mean, this isn't really
00:05:33 It doesn't have to be here.
00:05:36 I should go. I have to
00:05:38 Is something wrong?
00:05:40 I don't think this is going to work.
00:05:41 I think we should break up.
00:05:44 I thought you liked me... I came
00:05:49 I just don't want to get that serious.
00:05:51 Well, it doesn't have to be serious, ok?
00:05:54 It's not you, it's me.
00:05:56 I'm sorry.
00:06:33 Hey.
00:06:34 You want to watch with me?
00:06:36 I'm tired.
00:06:37 Oh come on!
00:06:38 Who else can I get to watch
00:06:41 You know if it's not John Wayne,
00:06:45 It's really scary.
00:06:48 You know this scene's famous?
00:06:50 Really?
00:06:52 You know they got that glass of milk to glow?
00:06:54 How?
00:06:55 Well Hitchcock put a light bulb inside the glass
00:07:00 No kidding.
00:07:01 That's clever.
00:07:03 How do you know that?
00:07:05 Cause I'm brilliant.
00:07:08 You are brilliant!
00:07:09 Take it away; I'm eating too much.
00:07:11 I think there's something wrong with me.
00:07:13 That's for sure.
00:07:18 What you think Mum would do if she found out
00:07:20 What you mean "if"?
00:07:24 You know she's always saying...
00:07:26 the whole family's going to be
00:07:29 Well...
00:07:31 What if one of us is a sinner?
00:07:33 Have you sinned with Michelle?
00:07:35 I promise I won't tell.
00:07:36 It's not that.
00:07:38 I'm just...
00:07:39 thinking about stuff, you know?
00:07:41 You think too much.
00:07:43 It's dangerous.
00:07:44 That's why I avoid it
00:07:46 Yeah?
00:07:50 I'm glad we talked.
00:07:53 Seriously, something... something wrong?
00:07:55 No.
00:07:58 Relax, cause I'm your big bro.
00:08:27 What's up Bobby?
00:08:28 Ready to go?
00:08:32 Hey Bobby.
00:08:33 Cheryl.
00:08:36 She's not your type.
00:08:37 Too much eye shadow.
00:08:38 What's wrong with Michelle?
00:08:42 We broke up.
00:08:43 Talk to you guys later.
00:08:48 Not telling the truth...
00:08:51 sometimes I feel like I'm at
00:08:53 looking down at the crashing surf
00:08:54 with nowhere to go but down.
00:08:57 I used to have these fun dreams
00:09:01 But now, as I fly,
00:09:02 I'm afraid.
00:09:04 They are telephone lines and
00:09:08 How painful it would be to run into one.
00:09:11 I wonder if I'll ever be free again.
00:10:08 Hello?
00:10:21 Bobby? Bobby?
00:10:24 Hey! Bobby? What did you do? Ha?
00:10:25 Did you take these?
00:10:27 Answer me!
00:10:28 No!
00:10:29 Is that the truth?
00:10:30 I couldn't do it, ok?
00:10:35 I wanted to but I couldn't.
00:10:41 What's wrong with you?
00:10:44 Why I couldn't do it?
00:10:47 Because it's a sin.
00:10:51 Bobby, what are you talking about?
00:10:56 I didn't want to go to hell, but...
00:10:58 I am.
00:10:59 Cause this is worse.
00:11:00 Bobby, you're scaring me.
00:11:05 You'd all hate me.
00:11:06 I know it. I know that if you guys
00:11:10 No.
00:11:11 Whatever it is...
00:11:12 we'll tell Mum...
00:11:13 No!
00:11:14 No. Mum wouldn't understand. OK?
00:11:18 Then you have to tell me right now.
00:11:24 I'm not like you Ed.
00:11:26 So what?
00:11:27 I keep trying.
00:11:28 I keep telling myself that one day I'm going to
00:11:36 I don't dream...
00:11:37 about girls, like you do.
00:11:40 I dream about guys.
00:11:45 You're gay?!
00:11:47 See?
00:11:47 You even say it like you hate me.
00:11:50 Bob, grime a break.
00:11:50 I don't know what to do!
00:11:53 - We'll tell Mum and dad.
00:11:55 No.
00:11:55 They can help, Bobby. They always
00:11:58 They can help.
00:11:59 I can't! Ok?
00:12:02 And you're not going to say
00:12:05 Promise me.
00:12:07 Promise me you're not going to
00:12:11 Ed, promise!
00:12:13 Ok.
00:12:14 I promise.
00:12:21 Mum, if there was something wrong with one of your
00:12:27 What did you do?
00:12:28 It's not me, it's Bobby.
00:12:29 What is it?
00:12:32 I didn't want to tell you but he was...
00:12:35 in such a bad shape, I'm really
00:12:39 He thinks...
00:12:40 he might be homosexual.
00:12:44 He's not.
00:12:46 He didn't want me to tell you. He was
00:12:52 Ok?
00:12:53 You know... he trusted me, you
00:12:56 Ok, good. It's good.
00:12:58 I'm glad you told me.
00:13:00 There's no doubt in my mind that
00:13:02 He'll help us.
00:13:03 He'll heal Bobby.
00:13:07 In order for all of us to be together
00:13:09 we cannot stray.
00:13:11 We can't sing like that.
00:13:12 That is a terrible sin.
00:13:14 The bible calls it an abomination.
00:13:16 In Leviticus, if a man lies with
00:13:19 they should both be put to death.
00:13:20 I will not raise my family not
00:13:23 Mary. Can we please worry about this life
00:13:27 Hey. What's going on?
00:13:30 Isn't there a problem you need to
00:13:32 - No...
00:13:35 If there is something wrong, you
00:13:40 - How could you?
00:13:41 I'm going to kill you!
00:13:43 No!
00:13:45 Ok, ok. Enough!
00:13:46 I was worried about you!
00:13:47 I trusted you!
00:13:48 Calm down!
00:13:49 Hey, Ed. Go find some room.
00:13:54 Bobby, we're your family.
00:13:55 We can get through this.
00:13:56 I know that if we trust in God,
00:13:59 It's curable with his help.
00:14:00 I'm sorry.
00:14:01 I can't help it.
00:14:03 I don't even want it Mum!
00:14:05 Bobby, you're not gay.
00:14:07 You're probably just...
00:14:09 you haven't met a girl that you're
00:14:13 Please...
00:14:14 Mum, please don't tell anyone please...
00:14:17 - Mum, please don't tell anyone.
00:14:19 It's going to be fine.
00:14:29 I was worried about you.
00:14:32 What was I supposed to do?
00:14:34 I'm out of here.
00:14:40 Thank you again for joining us
00:14:41 I'm pastor Raymond
00:14:43 and we'll take another call,
00:14:45 this is from Melissa in Concord.
00:14:46 Thank you reverend,
00:14:48 My sister made a terrible mistake
00:14:50 she sinned...
00:14:53 I advise you to live according to
00:14:57 Then you won't be doing...
00:14:59 what your sinful nature craves.
00:15:03 When the holy spirit controls your life,
00:15:05 it will produce love, joy and kindness,
00:15:08 goodness and self-control.
00:15:11 Does everyone have to know?
00:15:12 We're your family.
00:15:23 I am pure of hearts.
00:15:34 We still love you, Bobby.
00:15:37 Yes, thanks. Can I get some privacy?
00:15:46 Hi Mary!
00:15:54 Everything you always wanted to
00:15:59 If a homosexual who wants to renounce to
00:16:03 finds a psychiatrist who knows
00:16:07 he has every chance of becoming...
00:16:08 a happy well adjusted heterosexual.
00:16:21 Do you hear any voices?
00:16:23 No.
00:16:26 Do you ever hear any ringing sounds?
00:16:29 No.
00:16:30 Is that the phone?
00:16:39 It was a joke.
00:16:44 So you think you're a homosexual?
00:16:50 Bobby, how many girls have you
00:16:52 I don't know. Two.
00:16:55 Had sexual relations with?
00:17:02 Then how do you know for sure?
00:17:05 I just...
00:17:06 have these feelings, you know?
00:17:07 I don't mean you know. I mean...
00:17:10 I have these feelings.
00:17:15 Do you want to be homosexual?
00:17:23 I just want to be close with my
00:17:25 I feel like I slipped up and now
00:17:28 get back.
00:17:28 I'm not going to be able to help you...
00:17:30 if you don't answer my questions.
00:17:37 No, I don't want to be this way.
00:17:40 I'm going to talk with your mother
00:17:48 She wants to talk to you.
00:17:53 He can be cured. Right?
00:17:58 He has to be willing to really put
00:18:00 O, he is. I know he is.
00:18:03 And I think it would be good, it would be important
00:18:11 Right...
00:18:13 How did it go?
00:18:16 She said we should spend some more time
00:18:19 Maybe the two of you could spend
00:18:21 some quality time together.
00:18:24 Yes, sure.
00:18:30 That's all she said for 60$ an hour?
00:18:33 She also wants the 3 of us to go to
00:18:35 What? So it's our fault?
00:18:37 No no... I don't know about it but
00:18:39 Bob, I want you to be a part of this.
00:18:43 I read that homosexuals have sex
00:18:46 and that they recruit children.
00:18:49 What are you saying?
00:18:52 Do you think Bobby was recruited?
00:18:54 Come on Mary, you're going overboard.
00:18:55 You got to do something about this.
00:19:04 Dear lord, we ask that you keep
00:19:07 Please help him return to a pure heart.
00:19:10 Do you think this will heal me?
00:19:11 You have to trust the God will heal you.
00:19:14 And that Satan will try to discourage
00:19:17 Do you trust in god?
00:19:19 Yeah.
00:19:20 Now let me go to sleep.
00:19:27 When temptation is all around you,
00:19:30 faith is not enough.
00:19:33 Not just mental, but physical.
00:19:35 Who would like to share their story?
00:19:40 I used to be so unhappy.
00:19:42 I stayed out all night,
00:19:43 I talked back to my mother.
00:19:45 Since coming here and accepting Jesus
00:19:48 I've changed..
00:19:49 My Mum and I are like best friends now.
00:19:52 That's great Kerry.
00:19:55 The power of prayer and hard work.
00:19:57 Bobby what about you?
00:20:02 Good...
00:20:04 Well, you feel better. Don't you?
00:20:06 Your hard works' paid off. Hasn't it?
00:20:09 Yeah...
00:20:11 Let's sing, shall we?
00:20:46 Nothing I do seems to make a difference.
00:20:49 I try to act like them but
00:20:53 It's an awful feeling to believe you can
00:20:57 Even worse is everyone telling you
00:21:01 They don't know what it is to be
00:21:04 I'm running, I'm not eating junk food.
00:21:06 Good, good!
00:21:07 Yeah, that's good but...
00:21:09 I don't know the point of it.
00:21:11 I mean, my face has cleared up but
00:21:15 Well you have to stick with it.
00:21:17 Do you like the people in your group?
00:21:18 They're ok.
00:21:20 This one girl, she...
00:21:21 You know, I hope you're taking this
00:21:23 I mean that I hope you are trying with
00:21:25 I cannot lose you to this.
00:21:27 You won't.
00:21:34 Have faith!
00:21:39 Well this is going to be fun.
00:21:41 When was the last time all the
00:21:59 So how's school?
00:22:01 Good.
00:22:05 You thought about your plans?
00:22:08 Well college...
00:22:11 No, I mean...
00:22:11 life plans.
00:22:13 Well, I'm still thinking of becoming
00:22:15 Listen Bobby, you always had a strong
00:22:16 and we've always been alright with that.
00:22:18 But you're getting to the age where
00:22:22 Alright, dreams...
00:22:23 they're great when you're young, but...
00:22:25 they don't really have...
00:22:25 really have a place in the real world.
00:22:32 Yeah.
00:22:33 You hear what I'm saying to you?
00:22:37 - Yeah.
00:22:38 Alright.
00:22:45 How did it go?
00:22:48 I'm "healed".
00:22:53 It was fine.
00:22:55 Did you two talk?
00:22:57 Yeah, we talked.
00:22:59 What did you talk about?
00:23:02 Mary, it was fine.
00:23:04 No, but this is important.
00:23:08 I did the best I could.
00:23:15 A lot of times, confusions like Bobby's
00:23:18 can be caused by a distant father or
00:23:24 Well, I had both but I'm fine.
00:23:28 - Bob?
00:23:29 You need to participate in this.
00:23:31 I'm right here Mary. I'm in the room.
00:23:36 I think...
00:23:37 I've been a very good father.
00:23:39 And maybe you don't know this but
00:23:42 stuff that his brother and other boys
00:23:46 So I'm not going to force him.
00:23:55 Hi Bobby I'm Sheila.
00:24:00 Mum, who's that?
00:24:03 Sheila is a student in my Sunday
00:24:07 You got me a date?
00:24:09 You need to go out with lots of girls.
00:24:11 Can I at least pick my own?
00:24:16 I do not think that you are.
00:24:18 Have fun.
00:24:21 You look nifty. Do you want a brownie for energy?
00:24:23 - No
00:24:29 Hello. Who's this?
00:24:30 That's my brother Ed.
00:24:31 - Hi.
00:24:33 - Nice to meet you.
00:24:34 - Hi. - Are you up to
00:24:44 So you're never going to talk to me again?
00:24:50 What if she wants me
00:24:52 Tell her you're gay.
00:25:15 Watch out fag.
00:25:34 Did you tell your friends?
00:25:36 Bobby, that's not my friend.
00:25:38 You told everyone I'm gay?
00:25:39 I haven't told anyone. Stop being
00:25:41 You all hate me for it.
00:25:42 I know you don't think I see it but I do.
00:25:45 I got to go.
00:25:47 Bobby...
00:25:56 It's 3 in the morning!
00:26:00 Sorry I lost track of time.
00:26:02 Where were you?
00:26:05 Bobby...
00:26:08 You weren't with homosexuals, were you?
00:26:12 This is not you.
00:26:15 This is temptation working its ways.
00:26:17 You have to pray harder if you're going to get well.
00:26:21 Good night, Mum.
00:26:24 Pray for forgiveness right away.
00:26:28 If you believe, you will receive whatever you ask for in prayer. Matthew 21:22
00:26:46 It was fine, girls. But I got to go.
00:26:48 Ok.
00:26:50 Bobby! Hey!
00:26:53 Where's Joy?
00:26:54 She's at work so she asked me to pick you up.
00:26:58 You're welcome.
00:27:00 - What's with you?
00:27:01 You think I didn't notice that?
00:27:04 You don't want your friends to see me.
00:27:05 Some people wouldn't understand.
00:27:07 And now it's so obvious...
00:27:08 What did you tell them?
00:27:10 Well look the way you're wearing.
00:27:12 And I told you time after time not to do that thing with your arm.
00:27:16 Makes you look like a girl and you continue to do it.
00:27:19 - I'm always dressed this way.
00:27:23 Why you're doing this?
00:27:25 No, you're not.
00:27:27 You're trying to help YOU!
00:27:28 It's not about me. It's about what people think about you.
00:27:30 Imagine if they thought your son
00:27:32 What's wrong with you?
00:27:34 Stop that!
00:27:36 Nita Mum. Great.
00:27:38 Let’s go home!
00:27:39 - I'm walking.
00:27:40 Where are you going?
00:28:46 I've never seen you around here before.
00:28:49 You are really beautiful.
00:28:57 I got to go.
00:28:58 Can I call you?
00:29:04 No.
00:29:15 Metropolitan Community Church
00:29:21 Bobby...
00:29:23 Don't worry. I was at church.
00:29:34 - Hi Cousin
00:29:40 So, how long you're here for?
00:29:41 Just a day, I'm driving home tonight.
00:29:43 I came to see my dad. But I couldn't resist stopping by.
00:29:48 Maybe it's not a choice.
00:29:50 So you say that sterling’s not a choice.
00:29:53 What?
00:29:54 Aunt Mary, lunch is delicious.
00:29:56 Joy's right Bobby.
00:29:58 The bible says:
00:29:58 Men committed shameless acts with men
00:30:01 and received in their owns person the due penalty for their error.
00:30:04 You just won't change, will you?
00:30:06 I can't erase what's in the bible.
00:30:07 Personally, I think people should be able to love whoever they want.
00:30:16 Did I mention how good lunch is?
00:30:18 Even animals know what to do it with.
00:30:22 Actually, our dog does it with a pillow...
00:30:23 Can we please find something different to discuss?
00:30:27 Ed, why don't you tell us about college?
00:30:30 I dropped school last week.
00:30:33 You what?
00:30:37 Well, what about college?
00:30:38 I'm not going.
00:30:40 Great!
00:30:42 What's next?
00:30:44 You want to ruin your life?
00:30:46 Yeah well it's my life to ruin.
00:30:54 Is it like this at every meal?
00:30:56 Pretty much.
00:30:59 You should come up and visit me in Portland. It's so great!
00:31:02 I used to envy you..
00:31:04 When I came here with Mum and Dad, I always wished your parents were my parents.
00:31:08 You all seemed so close.
00:31:10 Well that's over with.
00:31:12 I think they love the sinners. Not the sin.
00:31:14 They should love the son no matter what the sin.
00:31:17 Hey that's good.
00:31:18 I'm going to start my own bible.
00:31:28 Think about coming to Portland?
00:31:33 Hi Mrs. Griffith!
00:31:34 Is Bobby here?
00:31:38 Bobby!
00:31:39 You know it's enough you go God knows where at night.
00:31:42 But now you're bringing these deviants into my house.
00:31:44 It's my house too.
00:31:45 And they're my friends.
00:31:47 Is that what that boy is?
00:31:48 Is it a sin to have friends now too Mum?
00:31:50 We have a good time, ok?
00:31:52 We go to the rocky chore together.
00:31:53 Does it mean we're all going to get trucked down?
00:31:55 They're gay, aren't they?
00:31:57 I thought you were getting better.
00:31:58 When?
00:31:59 When I was miserable?
00:32:02 You're right Mum!
00:32:03 I'm doomed just to roast in hell!
00:32:04 Don't say that.
00:32:05 That's what your bible says!
00:32:06 The bible also says a person can change.
00:32:08 I tried Mum. I can't!
00:32:10 Why do you keep choosing this?
00:32:12 Why would I choose this?
00:32:14 Why would I choose to have my entire family hate me?
00:32:16 No we love you. Can't you see that's why we're doing this?
00:32:19 Really Mum? Is that what love feels like?
00:32:27 Have fun in Portland.
00:32:30 Here's an issue for your vacation.
00:32:32 I hope you like it.
00:32:36 Promise me you'll write and call all the time?
00:32:39 It's two months.
00:32:42 Drive carefully.
00:32:43 Don't worry Madam.
00:32:47 You call me when you get to Portland.
00:32:49 I had this engraved with your initials.
00:33:05 I love you guys.
00:33:12 Bye Bobby.
00:33:24 Already I'm glad to be away from Walnut Creek.
00:33:27 This feels like a new life.
00:33:29 A new day.
00:33:30 I'm going to be a success in every way I can.
00:33:34 It's my goal to achieve,
00:33:35 a sense of pride,
00:33:37 and worth as a human being.
00:33:49 Gorgeous cousin.
00:33:55 Welcome to Portland!
00:34:14 Trust me...
00:34:15 You don't find clubs like this back home.
00:34:17 I'll see.
00:34:30 Welcome to London House cousin.
00:34:32 This is amazing!
00:34:33 Let's go boogie.
00:34:55 David!
00:34:57 Janette!
00:35:00 This is my cousin Bobby.
00:35:04 Nice to finally meet you Bobby!
00:35:37 So Janette tells me your Mum wants to cure you of your gayness.
00:35:41 Yeah, well...
00:35:43 My parents don't really understand it.
00:35:45 Do yours?
00:35:46 They didn't first.
00:35:47 But, they eventually came around.
00:35:50 How did you get them to change?
00:35:52 Well, one day,
00:35:54 I told them «Accept me as I am, or forget me!»
00:35:59 I know my Mum means well but I don't know if she'll ever accept me.
00:36:07 Just don't stop trying.
00:36:16 Now that you know
00:36:17 What every parent should know about homosexuality
00:36:47 Have a great trip.
00:36:50 Don't let her get to you.
00:36:52 And don't be afraid to stand up to her.
00:37:07 Too much flew by fast.
00:37:14 I'll call you when I get home.
00:37:16 You'd better.
00:37:22 Well. Look who's home.
00:37:24 - Hey Dad.
00:37:27 Just in time for dinner. Come on in.
00:37:30 That's funny.
00:37:32 So how was Portland?
00:37:33 Yeah...
00:37:34 Portland was great.
00:37:35 Good!
00:37:36 I'm thinking of maybe moving there for a little bit.
00:37:40 Moving there?
00:37:41 I met someone...
00:37:47 A guy.
00:37:52 Girls...
00:37:53 Give me a hand with this.
00:37:57 We're supposed to pretend we didn't hear that?
00:37:59 Yes.
00:38:01 Bobby...
00:38:02 This might not have been the right time.
00:38:05 I know.
00:38:06 I'm sorry..
00:38:12 You should start thinking about college for next fall.
00:38:14 You need to get your GED first.
00:38:16 I mean...
00:38:16 it's ok to take some time off but...
00:38:18 Did you hear me?
00:38:20 I don't want to know.
00:38:21 I want you to know.
00:38:24 His name's David.
00:38:25 We always start at the beginning every time and if we're not getting any more different let's just not go there.
00:38:29 When I'm with him,
00:38:31 it feels so...
00:38:32 good!
00:38:34 He treats me well...
00:38:35 he's funny and he's smart...
00:38:37 Stop. I mean it. I don't want to hear it.
00:38:40 I spent the last year listening to you and you're going to listen to me for once.
00:38:44 It feels good when I'm with David.
00:38:46 But if he touches me in public,
00:38:48 or God forbids, kisses me,
00:38:51 I pull away.
00:38:53 I feel ashamed.
00:38:54 Because you know it's wrong.
00:38:55 - Because YOU told me it's wrong.
00:38:59 It's not the bible. It's you!
00:39:01 Why can't you admit that?
00:39:03 Why can't you admit that you can't stand what I am?
00:39:06 What you've become!
00:39:07 What I am!
00:39:09 I'm sorry. I'm not the perfect little Bobby you always wanted.
00:39:13 But I can't keep apologizing for it Mum.
00:39:15 Accept me as I am or forget it.
00:39:17 I won't have a gay son.
00:39:21 Then Mum you don't have a son.
00:39:23 Fine.
00:39:32 Bobby...
00:39:44 Did you really think she'd change, Bobby?
00:39:50 She meant it.
00:39:53 She meant that.
00:39:58 I really want you to be happy.
00:40:02 And I'm sure that guy's really nice.
00:40:06 No matter what. She'll never accept it.
00:40:10 It's going to be a lonely life because he'll never be welcome here.
00:40:13 And for Christmas, Thanksgiving, anything.
00:40:26 Don't worry about Mum too much. She'll come around.
00:40:30 I'm not going to hold my breath.
00:40:33 Here you go.
00:40:36 The parachute pants!
00:40:40 Thanks.
00:40:44 I'll send you my first novel when I write it.
00:40:50 Bye Buck-Tooth!
00:40:53 Take care, ok?
00:40:56 Drive safe.
00:41:51 ...most of the new cases up to 5 a day seem to be settled in the homosexual community...
00:41:56 The AIDS becoming known as «the gay disease».
00:42:13 Well...
00:42:14 your Mum went allot for your birthday.
00:42:18 No card.
00:42:19 A sweater and "AIDS - The Wrath of God".
00:42:23 Whoa.
00:42:24 Happy birthday!
00:42:26 You can't expect anything different from her, Bobby.
00:42:29 She's not going to change.
00:42:30 Birthdays were always a big deal for all of us.
00:42:34 I'm just not in the «all of us» anymore.
00:42:37 Can't get that throughout my head.
00:42:42 There's David.
00:42:45 Talk to you later.
00:42:56 You sure this is ok?
00:42:58 They're going to love you.
00:43:03 Let's go.
00:43:04 Dad, do you have to tell that story?
00:43:07 Hey, I felt I had to.
00:43:08 Yes. And I've got about a dozen more where that came from if you're interested.
00:43:13 Oh, oh no thanks.
00:43:16 So Bobby...
00:43:17 tell us more about you.
00:43:18 You grew up in Walnut Creek, right?
00:43:20 David says you're very close to your family.
00:43:22 Yeah.
00:43:23 So how are your parents with you being gay?
00:43:26 Not good.
00:43:28 Well...
00:43:28 Maybe it's hard for them at first.
00:43:31 They'll come around.
00:43:32 You seem like a wonderful young man.
00:43:37 Hey!
00:43:37 - Cheers to that!
00:43:40 It's great to meet you Bobby.
00:43:42 So how did you guys meet?
00:43:44 You know Janette?...
00:43:50 It's a sin.
00:43:51 It's not natural.
00:43:56 He'll never be welcome here.
00:44:00 Sometimes I hurt so bad...
00:44:02 And I'm scared and I'm alone.
00:44:05 I'm sure they love you.
00:44:08 I'm damned.
00:44:13 I'm slowly sinking in a vast lake of quick sand.
00:44:16 A bottomless pool.
00:44:19 I wish I could crawl under a rock and sleep forever.
00:44:34 You've reached David.
00:44:35 I'm not here right now but if you leave a message after the beep, I'll get right back to you.
00:44:39 Have a good one...
00:44:42 Hey David it's Bobby.
00:44:46 I thought you'd be there.
00:44:48 Look I'm...
00:44:51 I really need someone to talk to and I was hoping you'd be there.
00:44:58 Please,
00:45:01 dear lord, continue to convict Bobby's heart off sin.
00:45:21 That he may find his way
00:45:23 The way of purity,
00:45:25 the way of the righteous.
00:46:09 It's a sin.
00:46:10 It's not natural.
00:47:00 I won't have a gay son.
00:47:12 You're going to be late for school.
00:47:13 You're the one who slept in.
00:47:15 Ok, then we're both going to be late for school.
00:47:17 Meet you in the car.
00:47:18 - OK!
00:47:23 Janette, what's wrong?
00:47:28 No...
00:47:31 What's wrong?
00:47:32 No...
00:47:33 What's wrong?
00:47:34 Nancy, get out of here!
00:47:36 Dad!
00:47:38 Daddy...
00:47:42 Hello.
00:47:45 Hi. Hi, Janette...
00:47:47 Mary, you've been called up front and he said to bring your purse.
00:47:52 Probably one of the kids that needs money again.
00:47:56 I need a break anyway.
00:47:57 Bye.
00:48:20 What is it?
00:48:24 Bobby killed himself.
00:48:30 He jumped off a bridge.
00:48:32 He... He's gone.
00:48:39 Help me!
00:48:44 Help me!
00:48:46 My son is dead!
00:48:49 Let me out!
00:48:51 My son is dead!
00:49:04 Joy, slow down. What's wrong?
00:50:04 Thank you.
00:50:19 Death of a loved one is always tragic
00:50:22 But the death of a young person can be particularly painful.
00:50:26 Because that person had his whole life ahead of him.
00:50:29 Bobby was only 20 years old.
00:50:31 We'll never know who he could have been. Or what he could have accomplished.
00:50:36 Bobby was a good young man but he was lost.
00:50:40 By giving into temptation, he strayed.
00:50:44 Then disillusioned,
00:50:47 he chose to end his life.
00:50:50 Now we know to condemn the sin,
00:50:53 not the sinner,
00:50:55 it was this sin that Bobby succumbed to.
00:50:59 It led to his unhappiness.
00:51:01 And it led him
00:51:03 to take his own life.
00:51:07 As goodness begets goodness,
00:51:09 so does sin begets sin.
00:51:12 They're ok with this?
00:51:40 They're running low on sandwiches.
00:51:42 Mum, do you think Bobby got salvation?
00:51:45 I don't know.
00:51:47 Suicide is a sin.
00:51:48 But maybe God knows that Bobby wasn't in his right mind?.
00:51:52 I mean...
00:51:53 Why would God allow Booby to go to hell if it was in his power to cure him?
00:51:57 I don't know Mary!
00:51:59 Clear yourself together.
00:52:01 People are uncomfortable enough.
00:52:11 Thank for coming.
00:52:13 I'm so sorry for your loss.
00:52:22 Mrs Griffith. Mr. Griffith..
00:52:25 I'm David.
00:52:27 I was a friend of Bobby's.
00:52:31 I want to offer my condolences.
00:52:48 He was an amazing young man.
00:52:58 I'm so sorry.
00:53:21 Aunt Mary...
00:53:23 David is a good person.
00:53:25 All of Bobby's friends were.
00:53:28 When Bobby was here, he was under control.
00:53:30 Then he moves to Portland and someone puts all these ideas into his head.
00:53:33 It wasn't like that.
00:53:34 David cared for Bobby.
00:53:36 We're his family.
00:53:37 We know how to help me,
00:53:39 he wanted to change, to be closer to god.
00:53:40 To be closer to YOU!
00:53:42 Then he went further and further into that life style and he couldn't get out.
00:53:46 Do you believe everything they tell you in church?
00:53:48 I know you and uncle Bob meant with that segment...
00:53:51 Bobby knew the repercussions about homosexual lifestyle.
00:53:53 Bobby was good, descent and kind.
00:53:57 Someone who didn't even know Bobby stood up there and condemned him, and you let him.
00:54:02 Bobby did everything he could to make himself acceptable to you.
00:54:05 He was so good, and bright, and funny. He should be praised.
00:54:10 I'm sorry you can't see it that way.
00:54:13 Maybe you should go.
00:54:16 Fine.
00:54:17 I left Bobby's things in his room.
00:55:05 Bobby!
00:55:06 Hey Mum!
00:55:10 Don't you ever do that again!
00:55:13 I knew it wasn't true.
00:55:15 I knew God would bring you back to me.
00:55:17 Mum, you worry too much.
00:55:55 I'm slowly sinking in a vast lake of quick sands.
00:55:58 A bottomless pool.
00:56:00 I wish I could crawl under a rock and sleep forever.
00:56:03 No one understands me.
00:56:05 No one in this house can accept my side of the story.
00:56:08 I can feel god's eyes looking down on me with pity.
00:56:11 I can't never let anyone find out I'm not straight.
00:56:13 It would be so humiliating...
00:56:15 My friends would hate me.
00:56:17 and my family...
00:56:19 Mum.
00:56:19 I've overheard them.
00:56:21 Thank you.
00:56:22 They've said that they hate gays.
00:56:24 And even God hates gays.
00:56:27 It really scares me when they talk that way because now they are talking about me.
00:56:31 I don't want to choose sin.
00:56:33 I don't.
00:56:34 I'm so mad and frustrated god...
00:56:37 I seem to be at the end of the road.
00:56:40 Why do you remain silent?
00:56:43 May 30th.
00:56:44 Memorial Day Barbecue.
00:56:46 Had fun.
00:56:48 Mum was sweet and funny self.
00:56:50 Like the old Mum...
00:56:52 For a second it felt like the old days.
00:56:55 She smiled at something I said,
00:56:57 and I saw on her eyes that for a second she forgot what she really thinks of me.
00:57:02 The anger never erupts.
00:57:04 My timid nature would never allow a fully fledged thunderstorm to occur.
00:57:09 But it's there, on the horizon.
00:57:11 I can feel god's eyes looking down on me with such pity.
00:57:15 He can't help me though.
00:57:17 Because I've chosen sin over righteousness.
00:57:45 Excuse me.
00:57:47 You alright Ed?
00:57:48 Oh yeah, I'm fantastic.
00:57:52 Ed. We have to deal with this as a family.
00:57:55 That was your answer for Bobby too but it didn't work.
00:57:58 Damned!
00:58:00 I'll go. I'll go.
00:58:01 Excuse me.
00:58:07 Come, Nancy.
00:58:37 You want to get out of here, maybe go for a beer?
00:58:47 Did he even think about what he would do to us?
00:58:51 He could have called...
00:58:53 or something but...
00:58:56 not just screw us, right?
00:58:58 Ed...
00:58:58 Nothing no! No goodbye, no note, nothing. Just...
00:59:06 I'm sorry Bobby.
00:59:09 I'm sorry.
00:59:11 Are you happy now?
00:59:13 I'm sorry Bobby.
00:59:15 Are you happy now?
00:59:17 Ed...
00:59:21 It's not your fault.
00:59:36 There must be other Bobby’s out there.
00:59:40 Other young gay people who may be thinking of taking their lives.
00:59:45 Does the church reach out to them?
00:59:49 They are other churches that do that.
00:59:52 Reverend Joseph asked us to tell you how sorry he is for your loss.
00:59:58 - We can come back in a couple of weeks and check in on your f...
01:00:06 I don't know what to do.
01:00:09 I need to make peace with this and I can't.
01:00:14 The lord says the impure will be thrown into the lake of fire.
01:00:20 Bobby...
01:00:21 sinned!
01:00:22 But he was pure of heart.
01:00:25 He'd never knowingly hurt anyone.
01:00:30 Is that enough?
01:00:37 Is it?
01:00:43 Dear god,
01:00:45 my relationship to you leaves something to be desired.
01:00:49 I have never asked of you,
01:00:51 only given, as I was told.
01:00:53 Your holy spirit has taught me so much...
01:00:56 But now there's more I need to know.
01:01:06 Hey!
01:01:11 I can't.
01:01:16 Ok.
01:01:25 I think I'm going to sleep in the living room.
01:02:13 Reverend?
01:02:14 Mary Griffith.
01:02:15 Nice to have you with us, Mary.
01:02:17 The bible...
01:02:19 it says that homosexuality is a sin punishable by death. Do you believe that?
01:02:23 There are other interpretations of the bible, Mrs Griffith.
01:02:26 My son...
01:02:27 was gay...
01:02:29 and he killed himself.
01:02:31 Is there another interpretation of that?
01:02:36 I'm sorry.
01:02:42 What was his name?
01:02:45 Bobby.
01:02:46 Bobby Griffith.
01:02:50 I saw him here a couple of times.
01:02:52 My Bobby?
01:02:54 He always sat way in the back.
01:02:57 He stopped coming.
01:02:59 I am so sorry.
01:03:01 You must be...
01:03:02 I need answers.
01:03:04 I need to know where he is.
01:03:06 Is homosexuality an unforgivable sin?
01:03:09 Leviticus, 18:22 says:
01:03:12 «If a man lies with another man, it is an abomination. »
01:03:15 An abomination, in that time, didn't mean sin. It meant unclean.
01:03:19 Leviticus also goes on to
01:03:20 say eating shellfish is an abomination.
01:03:23 Or mixing fabrics...
01:03:25 Leviticus 20:13
01:03:27 «If a man lies with another man, they both should be put to death. »
01:03:29 And then he says the same thing about an adulterer, or a child that disobeys their parents.
01:03:35 And we certainly don't interpret that scripture literally.
01:03:38 In Deuteronomy 22,
01:03:39 «If a woman is not a virgin on her wedding day,
01:03:42 she should be taken to her father's house and stoned to death. »
01:03:46 So what do you tell people who come here?
01:03:49 Gay people...
01:03:51 That homosexuality is ok?
01:03:53 That it is permissible in god's eyes?
01:03:56 I tell them what I believe to be the truth:
01:03:58 that God loves them as they are.
01:04:00 God's vengeance is great.
01:04:02 So is his compassion.
01:04:04 You shouldn't teach them
01:04:05 that homosexuality is ok.
01:04:08 That's not what the bible says.
01:04:10 It just confuses them more.
01:04:12 Mrs Griffith,
01:04:12 if you'd like to come back during the week and talk,
01:04:15 my door is open,
01:04:16 but not to be blamed.
01:04:18 ok?
01:04:56 I think that we got
01:04:57 a pretty good one,
01:04:59 nice and full.
01:05:01 A couple of balls like your dear old dad.
01:05:03 Or grandma...
01:05:08 Yeah...
01:05:09 Mum, can we hang this one on the tree?
01:05:16 I remember when he made this.
01:05:19 Second grade.
01:05:21 Mrs Towns' class, I think.
01:05:23 He was so proud of himself.
01:05:28 Where do you want to put it?
01:05:30 Up high.
01:05:31 So he can look out.
01:05:39 Hey, they work.
01:05:45 I'm going to go check on my cookies.
01:06:10 I found the passage you talked about.
01:06:13 About stoning to death
01:06:14 Deuteronomy, 22.
01:06:16 But what about Sodom and Gomorrah?
01:06:19 God punishes the sin of homosexuality. How do you explain that?
01:06:23 It's nice to see you too, Mary.
01:06:26 What's this for?
01:06:27 It's a roomish sale.
01:06:29 All gay people have roomish too.
01:06:32 So...
01:06:33 What about Sodom and Gomorrah?
01:06:35 Many scholars think this sin was greed and not homosexuality.
01:06:39 And it wasn't labelled homosexuality until years after it was written.
01:06:43 Do you have answers for all these things just to justify being that way?
01:06:47 You have answers to justify that it's wrong.
01:06:50 I guess we're in an impasse here.
01:06:53 So you think it's ok to interpret the bible any way you want?
01:06:57 No, of course not. But the bible was written and interpreted my mortal men.
01:07:02 And many of those interpretations were reflections of the time and what they lived.
01:07:07 So you feel completely free to question it?
01:07:11 Because...
01:07:12 I think it's blasphemous.
01:07:14 I don't think God minds questions.
01:07:16 He might not be thrilled with all our answers.
01:07:20 I think blind faith is just as dangerous as none at all.
01:07:23 I've never questioned my faith. I...
01:07:25 I've never had reasons to.
01:07:27 Sometimes to question it...
01:07:29 helps you find a deeper faith.
01:07:33 Bobby stopped coming here.
01:07:37 I think the reason was...
01:07:39 he couldn't never allow himself to feel worthy of God's love.
01:07:46 And we didn't help.
01:07:48 Mary...
01:07:50 Have you ever heard about P-FLAG?
01:07:52 It's a national organisation.
01:07:56 No, that's not for me.
01:07:57 They can help.
01:07:59 You'd be able to see you're not so alone in this.
01:08:01 Bye reverend.
01:08:02 No.
01:08:02 There's a woman in Concord, Betty Lambert.
01:08:05 You'll love her.
01:08:06 She has a gay son in his 30s.
01:08:09 I just had a few questions.
01:08:12 Just in case.
01:08:19 It's true. There's a passage that says if children are disobedient they should be put to death.
01:08:24 And I mean no one interprets that literally.
01:08:28 What I'm saying is...
01:08:30 if the church no longer interprets that literally,
01:08:33 maybe homosexuality is also on that list.
01:08:36 Well, maybe.
01:08:38 Well, don't you think that's important?
01:08:40 Mary, I wasn't that keen with the first interpretation of the bible.
01:08:43 Well, it could mean that Bobby's in heaven.
01:08:46 Yeah, well, he's not here.
01:08:48 Right?
01:08:48 Why isn't that enough for you?
01:08:51 Is it enough for you?!
01:08:54 Does it make it any better?
01:08:55 Everything you're doing?
01:08:56 What do you want me to do?
01:08:59 Just forget about him? I can't do that. Maybe you can.
01:09:01 I don't want to forget about him, Mary.
01:09:03 I want to remember him. Then I want to move on.
01:09:05 But I can't!
01:09:06 Nobody can...
01:09:08 Just walk away. Like you always do.
01:09:09 You never deal with anything.
01:09:11 Oh, I see...
01:09:13 Maybe if I did, Bobby would still be alive today?
01:09:14 Is that what you're saying? Is that what you think?
01:09:19 You can answer me!
01:09:29 Listen Mary, we both made mistakes. We all made mistakes. But it's done, he's gone.
01:09:31 We're not going to bring him back.
01:09:34 I know that!
01:09:36 Don't you know I know that?!
01:09:59 Mary?
01:10:00 I'm Betty.
01:10:01 Hello.
01:10:02 Betty Lambert.
01:10:03 I'm so glad you called.
01:10:05 Please, come in.
01:10:07 Reverend Whit sell told me what happened to Bobby.
01:10:10 I can't imagine what it must feel like to lose a child like that...
01:10:15 How long has it been?
01:10:19 Six months...
01:10:20 Six months and a few days.
01:10:24 Our son was 14 when he came out to us.
01:10:27 Isn't that a little young?
01:10:31 I knew before then.
01:10:34 We, mothers, we always know. Don't we?
01:10:37 And you were ok with it?
01:10:39 Oh god, no.
01:10:41 I don't think any parent hears the news and thinks «Oh Goodie»!
01:10:49 «Goodie» wasn't the first word that came to my mind.
01:10:54 Mary...
01:10:56 Why don't you come to a P-FLAG meeting with me?
01:10:59 No, I'm...
01:11:01 I'm not good at talking in groups.
01:11:03 So don't talk.
01:11:05 Just come and listen.
01:11:08 I think you'll be shocked
01:11:10 at how many people think they were the All-American-Family.
01:11:15 I'll think about it.
01:11:21 Eric was taunted in school all the time.
01:11:25 Mary, you came.
01:11:26 I can't stay long.
01:11:27 That's great. Come on in.
01:11:29 I was so furious, I went to the principal.
01:11:32 But he didn't do a thing to the boys who did it.
01:11:36 I was shocked by that.
01:11:38 I called them fruits, and ferries.
01:11:41 I didn't know.
01:11:42 It took me a long time to accept my Sam.
01:11:46 I think I always knew.
01:11:48 I mean...
01:11:49 He asked for a pink Lactose shirt for his birthday.
01:11:53 He was always different.
01:11:55 So he tells me he's gay...
01:11:57 What do I do?
01:11:58 I take him hunting.
01:12:00 There he is in his pink Lactose shirt, he saw a deer
01:12:03 and yelled «Run, Bambi, run»
01:12:06 I always knew I could love my son
01:12:09 I never thought I could accept him. For who he is.
01:12:13 Well, when Gil told me she was gay. I insisted she see a psychiatrist.
01:12:18 But when that man suggested shock therapy,
01:12:22 I looked at my baby and, the hurt in her eyes.
01:12:27 I thought «This is crazy!»
01:12:29 Ah, hello reverend!
01:12:30 Please, come sit down.
01:12:31 Hi guys!
01:12:32 Hi reverend!
01:12:33 Glad to see you're all here tonight.
01:12:35 As you may know, reverend Whit sell is a pastor of the Metropolitan Community Church,
01:12:40 and he's proposing a gay freedom day to the Walnut Creek city council.
01:12:45 The city council vote happens in about a month.
01:12:47 and I would love all your support.
01:13:06 Mary!
01:13:42 Mary?
01:13:45 Mary, what are you doing out here?
01:13:48 You're soak. Come inside.
01:13:49 I didn't know where else to go.
01:13:57 I was sitting there,
01:13:59 listening to all their stories.
01:14:02 About how they...
01:14:04 always just knew...
01:14:06 their kid was different.
01:14:10 And then I had this dream tonight...
01:14:13 Bobby was a baby.
01:14:21 My son was always different.
01:14:28 His difference began at conception.
01:14:33 I knew that.
01:14:35 I felt it.
01:14:38 I know now...
01:14:40 why God didn't heal Bobby
01:14:44 He didn't heal him because...
01:14:48 there was nothing wrong with him.
01:14:53 I did this!
01:14:56 I killed my son!
01:14:58 You did not kill your son.
01:14:59 Bobby killed himself.
01:15:01 How could God forgive me?
01:15:04 How could Bobby forgive me?
01:15:07 God has already done the forgiving.
01:15:09 You have to forgive yourself.
01:15:13 I'm so sorry!
01:15:17 I'm so sorry!
01:15:30 Dear god.
01:15:31 Give us something we can live with
01:15:33 and pass on to others whose lives will never be the same because of a loved one's death.
01:15:39 I did not decide on brown eyes for myself.
01:15:42 And I now realize that Bobby didn't decide to be gay.
01:15:46 If you say in your word
01:15:48 that it is evil and wicked to be born with no arms,
01:15:51 and a child is born with no arms,
01:15:54 What is that child to think?
01:16:02 Our first order business is a proposal for a gay freedom day in Walnut Creek.
01:16:08 Attention, please.
01:16:09 We have a select group to debate the issue.
01:16:11 I don't see her.
01:16:12 ...it's reverend Whit sell.
01:16:15 For one day,
01:16:17 for one day, people can celebrate their difference rather than feel shame.
01:16:21 They should be ashamed!
01:16:25 There are so many other people who need our time and our attention.
01:16:29 Why are we wasting it on this?
01:16:31 Alright, alright. Let's have some order here please.
01:16:34 They spit in the face of decency and morality.
01:16:39 We cannot allow the fabric of our society to be torn apart.
01:16:45 Right?
01:16:51 I heard he tries to run for the Human Relations commission,
01:16:54 they picked that limped Whit sell instead.
01:16:57 They sent him a letter.
01:16:59 I said, 'We sing hymns at our church'.
01:17:01 What do you do with the hymns at your church?
01:17:03 So unless anyone else has anything else to add,
01:17:05 we'll adjourn to make our decision.
01:17:08 Mary?
01:17:10 Hey Dad!
01:17:12 Dad, get in here!
01:17:14 Dad hurry up! Mum's on TV.
01:17:16 Homosexuality is a sin.
01:17:19 Homosexuals are dammed to spend eternity in hell.
01:17:24 If they wanted to change,
01:17:25 they could be healed of their evil ways.
01:17:28 If they would turn away from temptation,
01:17:31 they could be normal again.
01:17:33 If only they would try and try harder,
01:17:36 if it doesn't work.
01:17:38 These are all the things I said to my son Bobby when I found out he was gay.
01:17:42 When he told me he was homosexual,
01:17:44 my world fell apart.
01:17:47 I did everything I could
01:17:48 to cure him of his sickness.
01:17:51 8 months ago, my son...
01:17:53 jumped off a bridge and killed himself.
01:17:57 I deeply regret my lack of knowledge about gay and lesbian people.
01:18:02 I see that everything I was taught and told was bigotry and dehumanizing slender.
01:18:08 If I had investigated, beyond what I was told,
01:18:11 if I had just,
01:18:13 listened to my son,
01:18:16 when he poured his heart out to me...
01:18:18 I would not be standing here today with you
01:18:21 filled with regrets.
01:18:23 I believe
01:18:24 that God was pleased with Bobby's kind and loving spirit.
01:18:28 In god's eyes
01:18:29 kindness and love are what it's all about.
01:18:32 I didn't know that each time that I echoed eternal damnation for gay people...
01:18:37 each time I referred to Bobby as sick and perverted and a danger to our children...
01:18:43 his self-esteem,
01:18:45 his sense of worth, were being destroyed.
01:18:49 and finally,
01:18:50 his spirit broke beyond repair.
01:18:55 It was not god's will that Bobby climbed over the side of a freeway overpass
01:19:01 and jumped directly into the path
01:19:03 of an 18 wheel truck which killed him instantly.
01:19:08 Bobby's death
01:19:09 was the direct result of his parents' ignorance and fear of the word gay.
01:19:17 He wanted to be a writer.
01:19:20 His hopes and dreams should not have been taken from him but they were.
01:19:26 They are children
01:19:28 like Bobby,
01:19:30 sitting in your congregations,
01:19:33 unknown to you,
01:19:34 they will be listening,
01:19:36 as you echo «Amen».
01:19:40 And that will soon silence their prayers.
01:19:44 Their prayers to god,
01:19:45 for understanding,
01:19:46 and acceptance,
01:19:48 and for your love.
01:19:51 But your hatred, and fear,
01:19:54 and ignorance of the word «gay» will silence those prayers
01:19:59 So...
01:20:03 before you echo «Amen»
01:20:05 in your home and place of worship.
01:20:08 Think!
01:20:09 Think and remember.
01:20:11 A child is listening.
01:20:19 Oh, Mum...
01:20:26 Should be good.
01:20:39 He lost.
01:20:41 They voted the order install.
01:20:43 Well, he'll try again next year, right?
01:20:47 So, we're really going to San Francisco?
01:20:49 I think we have to.
01:20:50 I don't think that's a choice.
01:20:53 Well...
01:20:55 that's ironic.
01:20:58 Ok.
01:21:09 Are we late?
01:21:10 Just in time!
01:21:12 Jacky, is this everyone?
01:21:13 Oh! honey, no...
01:21:15 Come with me.
01:21:16 We have a special place for you.
01:21:18 Ok.
01:22:02 To all the Bobby and Janes out there...
01:22:05 I say these words to you as I would with my own precious children.
01:22:09 Please don't give up hope on life.
01:22:11 Or yourselves.
01:22:13 You're very special to me.
01:22:15 I'm working very hard to make this world a better and safer place for you to live in.
01:22:20 Promise me you'll keep trying.
01:22:22 Bobby gave up on love.
01:22:24 I hope you won't.
01:22:26 You're always in my gods.
01:22:30 My name is Bobby Griffith.
01:22:33 I write this in hope that one day,
01:22:35 many years from now,
01:22:37 I would be able to go back
01:22:38 and remember what my life was like,
01:22:40 when I was a young and confused adolescent,
01:22:42 desperately trying to understand myself in the world I live in
01:22:46 The other reason I write this,
01:22:48 so long after I died,
01:22:50 others may have a chance to read about me,
01:22:53 and see what my life as a young person was like.
01:24:00 On December 6th 1995, Mary Griffith testified before members of the Congress of the United States.
01:24:06 Her tireless work protecting the rights of gay and lesbian youth has established her as a major force in the fight for human rights.
01:24:14 Before you echo Amen in your home or place of worship, think and remember. A child is listening. - Mary Griffith
01:24:22 In loving memory of