Away From Her

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00:00:38 She said,
00:00:40 "Do you think it'd be fun
00:00:42 And what did you say?
00:00:44 I took her up on it.
00:00:46 I never wanted to be
00:00:49 She had the spark of life.
00:02:13 Careful.
00:02:17 When did we last
00:02:21 Right after the war.
00:02:28 Christmas.
00:02:29 In the '50s sometime or the '60s.
00:02:31 Shut up.
00:03:02 I'll go make the fire.
00:03:39 "You climbed the bank and said,
00:03:41 "'This is how you touch
00:03:44 "the grass cutter's wife,
00:03:48 "And you searched your arms
00:03:49 for the missing perfume
00:03:51 Don't worry, darling.
00:03:54 I expect I'm just losing my mind.
00:03:58 "What good is it to be
00:04:02 "left with no trace
00:04:03 "as if not spoken to in the act of love,
00:04:06 "as if wounded without
00:04:11 "You touched your belly
00:04:13 "and said, 'I am
00:04:18 Smell me."'
00:05:21 When I look away,
00:05:25 But I can look again.
00:05:28 Sometimes there's something
00:05:32 I think you're supposed to be able
00:05:34 to put your fingers
00:05:38 and feel the heat.
00:05:40 Well?
00:05:45 I can't be sure.
00:05:47 I can't be sure if what I can feel
00:05:50 is the heat or my imagination.
00:05:55 The heat attracts the bugs.
00:05:59 Nature never fools around
00:06:37 Yes?
00:06:38 I don't quite know
00:06:40 I used to see your husband
00:06:44 I'm a regular visitor there myself.
00:06:51 Those are lovely flowers.
00:06:54 I've never seen
00:06:59 The earth there must
00:07:08 What?
00:07:09 You could just open the drawers.
00:07:11 Remind yourself.
00:07:12 What?
00:07:13 Maybe all the labels and lists
00:07:19 If you stopped thinking about things
00:07:21 maybe that's the end
00:07:26 I heard a story at a dinner party
00:07:28 about the German soldiers
00:07:30 in Czechoslovakia during the war.
00:07:33 I heard it from that
00:07:36 Veronica.
00:07:37 We spoke once at a dinner party.
00:07:40 Don't be nervous.
00:07:42 It's a good story.
00:07:45 She told me that each
00:07:49 wore a sign saying "hund."
00:07:53 "Why?" said the Czechs.
00:07:55 And the Germans replied,
00:08:19 It was one of those craft shows
00:08:21 where you look around and wonder
00:08:23 can allow for the production
00:08:26 Oh, God, those things are everywhere.
00:08:28 - What do you do with them?
00:08:31 You use it as a... what do you call it...
00:08:33 a light fixture holder or som...
00:08:34 - I do not.
00:08:36 Oh, yes. Wait a second, I do.
00:08:37 Fiona gave it to me.
00:08:39 Yes, I did.
00:08:42 Would anybody like some more?
00:08:56 Ween...
00:09:02 Wai... Wain...
00:09:06 No, but I'll have a touch of wine.
00:09:08 Yeah, Fiona, that would be lovely.
00:09:10 Some more wain.
00:09:15 The thing is...
00:09:19 half the time I wander around
00:09:21 looking for something
00:09:26 I can't remember what it is.
00:09:31 Once the idea is gone,
00:09:36 I just wander around
00:09:39 trying to figure out what it was
00:09:47 I think I may be
00:09:58 And what year is it?
00:10:00 2003.
00:10:02 Fiona, if you found a letter on the street,
00:10:07 what would you do with it?
00:10:09 I'd mail it.
00:10:10 And where would you put it to mail it?
00:10:23 And if there was a fire
00:10:27 and you were the first person
00:10:30 what would you do?
00:10:35 Well, we don't go
00:10:37 do we, Grant?
00:10:39 All those multiplexes showing
00:10:54 Have you seen my coat?
00:10:56 There it is, dear.
00:10:58 It's on your chair.
00:11:01 Oh, yes.
00:11:02 Fiona, would you mind
00:11:05 Would you mind taking a seat?
00:11:10 I was just feeling
00:11:23 What an ugly baby.
00:11:42 When did we move into this cottage?
00:11:45 Was it last year
00:11:57 No. It was longer than that.
00:11:59 It was when I left the university,
00:12:02 20 years ago.
00:12:10 Well, that's shocking.
00:12:24 Let's just see how it goes, shall we?
00:12:30 How is your husband doing?
00:12:33 Okay.
00:12:34 He and my wife struck up
00:12:38 I heard about that.
00:12:41 So, uh,
00:12:43 I'd like to speak to you
00:12:48 If you have a minute.
00:12:50 My husband did not try
00:12:53 if that's what you're getting at.
00:12:54 He did not try to molest her.
00:12:56 He's incapable of it.
00:12:57 And anyway, he wouldn't.
00:12:59 From what I hear, it was the other way around.
00:13:02 No, uh, that isn't it at all.
00:13:04 I didn't come here with any complaints.
00:13:07 Oh.
00:13:09 Oh, well, I'm sorry.
00:13:15 Maybe you should come in.
00:13:16 It's not as warm a day as it looks.
00:13:24 "Never let a person make you feel guilty
00:13:30 Hmm. Random.
00:13:35 I can't even see what the point is.
00:13:38 We can't be certain this is what...
00:13:41 You're far too young.
00:13:43 "Should the patient
00:13:44 "remain at home...
00:13:47 the caregiver will very often be the spouse."
00:13:52 "The caregiver must preside
00:13:55 "of someone he or she
00:13:57 "must do this for years and years
00:13:59 "with the news always
00:14:01 "must put up sometimes
00:14:03 "but at the same time
00:14:06 "and must somehow learn
00:14:09 "Caregivers must be able to diagnose
00:14:10 "a wide variety of ordinary ailments
00:14:12 "under extraordinary circumstances.
00:14:14 "Imagine the person
00:14:16 "suddenly upset about something,
00:14:18 "but completely unable
00:14:20 or even to understand it himself."
00:14:26 Sounds like a regular marriage.
00:17:00 Hello, there!
00:17:04 Oh!
00:17:06 Hello, there.
00:17:53 We are at that stage, Grant.
00:17:59 We are at that stage.
00:18:11 Well...
00:18:15 if we do think of it...
00:18:18 if we do...
00:18:21 then it must be as something
00:18:27 A kind of experimental treatment or...
00:18:34 a rest cure of sorts.
00:18:47 All right.
00:18:50 All right.
00:18:51 We can think of it that way.
00:18:57 We have to sit in the kitchen,
00:19:07 Well, you might as well
00:19:10 Thank you.
00:19:12 My son put him on the Sports Channel
00:19:18 I don't know what we'd do without it.
00:19:20 Must be a struggle.
00:19:23 Well, you know.
00:19:25 You know what
00:19:30 - You're sure?
00:19:34 You don't want to just get
00:19:38 I don't want to make
00:19:44 What place?
00:19:49 Just kidding!
00:19:52 Fuck off.
00:20:01 You're not making
00:20:05 I've already made up my mind.
00:20:12 Okay.
00:20:42 It's time to go home now.
00:20:44 - No, no.
00:20:46 - Hi. Is this your son?
00:20:47 Hi. I'm Betty. It's time for your bath.
00:20:50 - Bath.
00:20:52 You have to have a bath now.
00:20:54 Mama.
00:20:56 Mr. Andersson?
00:20:58 - I'm the supervisor here at Meadowlake.
00:21:00 I'm just going to take you
00:21:03 and then we can sit down
00:21:06 and the appropriate time
00:21:11 As you can see,
00:21:14 Yes, I can see that.
00:21:16 This is my favorite room.
00:21:18 Look, over there, as you can see,
00:21:19 they have a puzzle on the go.
00:21:21 They always have
00:21:23 - This works.
00:21:25 that our residents
00:21:27 so a lot of our activities
00:21:30 is really geared toward...
00:21:31 Hello, there, Miss Madeleine.
00:21:32 Hello, Michael.
00:21:34 Now, as you can see,
00:21:36 and again, we're really emphasizing
00:21:39 So you can bring the family.
00:21:40 Everybody can come and visit.
00:21:42 We have a state-of-the-art
00:21:44 so the residents can gather
00:21:47 - Hi, Madeleine.
00:21:48 - Hello, Madeleine.
00:21:50 Aren't you festive!
00:21:52 And this is our quiet corner
00:21:57 We have a lot of activities
00:22:00 Balloon badminton and sit and fit.
00:22:03 And here we have our
00:22:06 We can accommodate
00:22:10 We're just serving up a little Christmas dinner
00:22:14 The old Meadowlake is just next door,
00:22:16 and that's a day center
00:22:19 this for the permanent residents.
00:22:20 This is brand-spanking new.
00:22:22 So let's go upstairs, shall we?
00:22:26 Just taking my tea for a ride.
00:22:30 Oh, look at this one, Flo.
00:22:33 He's a real charmer, isn't he?
00:22:35 Would you say,
00:22:38 I think you could say
00:22:40 You're a rascal.
00:22:42 Mr. Andersson is here about his wife, Eliza.
00:22:44 I should have known it.
00:22:46 At this age, it's...
00:22:50 What do the kids call it, Flo? It's...
00:22:53 It's a real clusterfuck.
00:22:55 All the charmers are taken.
00:22:57 Or dead. Mostly dead.
00:22:59 You're kind of charming
00:23:03 Shall we?
00:23:12 This is our second floor,
00:23:15 The elevators, of course,
00:23:16 have the lockdown system,
00:23:17 and this is where
00:23:19 once they become more progressed.
00:23:21 Interesting choice of words.
00:23:24 Why don't I show you some of the rooms here,
00:23:27 Then we can go back down
00:23:29 where Mrs. Andersson will be living.
00:23:30 No, that will not be necessary.
00:23:32 My wife will not be
00:23:35 All right.
00:23:38 Who chooses the music?
00:23:40 I'm sorry?
00:23:41 I'm assuming it's not the residents.
00:23:43 I don't see any of them
00:23:46 Yeah, well. You know the rooms on the regular
00:23:49 so the patients can listen
00:23:51 How kind.
00:23:54 Now, we don't admit anyone
00:23:58 so Mrs. Andersson will
00:24:00 to make the big move.
00:24:02 Just December, Christmas, you know, too
00:24:06 - Right.
00:24:08 I'm looking for those documents
00:24:09 Sure. Go ahead.
00:24:11 Mr. Andersson, this is Kristy,
00:24:14 Against some people's
00:24:16 Now, now.
00:24:18 Mr. Andersson is here about his wife,
00:24:20 who will be joining us in January.
00:24:22 - Hi, there.
00:24:23 We also have a policy,
00:24:24 which I'm sure you saw
00:24:25 that our new residents
00:24:27 or receiving phone calls
00:24:29 just to give them a chance to settle in.
00:24:31 What sort of visitors?
00:24:36 Everyone. Even close relatives.
00:24:39 I couldn't just leave her here.
00:24:40 We understand,
00:24:43 to leave a loved one
00:24:45 but most people need
00:24:49 Before we had this rule in place,
00:24:50 residents would forget
00:24:52 why they were being left here.
00:24:54 Whereas we find,
00:24:55 you give them the month
00:24:57 and they're happy as clams.
00:24:59 And after that, a little visit home
00:25:05 We'll take good care
00:25:11 - Knock-knock.
00:25:13 Knock-knock. Boo.
00:25:24 - She's bringing two babies.
00:25:26 She's got a new baby,
00:28:11 Smells good.
00:28:15 I was going to go for a ski,
00:28:18 what with the Alzheimer's and all.
00:28:20 Why didn't you wake me?
00:28:22 What are these, Grant?
00:28:32 Those are the documents
00:28:35 if you decide to go to Meadowlake.
00:28:38 That is exactly
00:28:40 You were to go and sign these
00:28:43 I wouldn't be allowed
00:28:53 30 days isn't such a long time
00:28:58 I don't think I like the place.
00:29:04 I don't think we should be looking
00:29:10 I don't think we'll ever find that.
00:29:14 I think all we can aspire
00:29:17 is a little bit of grace.
00:30:02 I suppose I'll be
00:30:06 It will be sort of like... in a hotel.
00:30:15 How do I look?
00:30:16 Just like always.
00:30:18 Just as you've always looked.
00:30:19 And how does that look?
00:30:23 Direct and vague...
00:30:27 sweet and ironic.
00:30:35 Is that how I look?
00:30:49 Oh. Remember?
00:30:54 Surprised, Grant?
00:30:56 No, I'm not surprised.
00:30:57 I'm just grateful
00:31:00 I'm not all gone, Grant. Just...
00:31:03 going...
00:31:08 There are things
00:31:13 But won't. You know.
00:31:23 You never left me.
00:31:25 You still made love to me,
00:31:27 despite disturbing demands elsewhere.
00:31:33 But all those sandals, Grant.
00:31:41 What could you do but be a part of the time
00:31:44 All those pretty girls.
00:31:47 Didn't seem like anyone
00:31:51 I think you did all right,
00:31:53 compared to some
00:31:57 Those who left their wives.
00:32:02 And the women who
00:32:08 I think people are too demanding.
00:32:12 People want to be in love
00:32:16 What a liability. And then that silly girl.
00:32:20 That silly girl Veronica.
00:32:23 Girls that age
00:32:26 saying they're going
00:32:29 But that was that.
00:32:33 Promised me a new life.
00:32:34 We moved out here,
00:32:36 that is exactly what you gave me.
00:32:42 How long ago was that?
00:32:44 20 years.
00:32:51 God, that's shocking.
00:32:54 So you see, I'm going...
00:32:59 but I'm not gone.
00:33:29 - Fiona.
00:33:34 Don't go.
00:33:37 That's what is happening, Grant.
00:33:39 It's happening... right now.
00:34:11 Fiona.
00:34:14 Hello. I'm checking in today.
00:34:16 My name is Fiona Andersson.
00:34:18 Yes, Mrs. Andersson.
00:34:19 We have your room
00:34:21 - Perfect.
00:34:23 Mrs. Montpelier, show you.
00:34:24 I'll go fetch her. She's expecting you.
00:34:26 Thank you.
00:34:28 Fiona.
00:34:30 Grant.
00:34:32 I can't go away from you like this.
00:34:34 We had nothing
00:34:38 You could have just driven away
00:34:41 But you didn't.
00:34:45 I thank you for that.
00:34:51 - Mrs. Andersson.
00:34:53 - How do you do? I'm Madeleine.
00:34:55 Should I give you two a moment?
00:34:57 - No, thank you.
00:34:59 All right, then, well,
00:35:01 and then I'd like to give you
00:35:03 - That'd be lovely. Thank you.
00:35:11 So, as you can see,
00:35:16 Here we go.
00:35:25 Yes. This'll do just fine.
00:35:29 Good. I'm so glad
00:35:31 is this all you brought
00:35:33 - For now.
00:35:36 Well, if you need any help arranging things,
00:35:40 Thank you, Mrs. Montpelier.
00:35:44 Now, if you wouldn't mind, I'd like to say
00:35:47 We haven't been apart for a month
00:35:51 It could be quite something.
00:35:53 Okay.
00:36:01 Please, Fiona.
00:36:06 Grant.
00:36:08 Fiona...
00:36:11 You know what I'd like?
00:36:16 I'd like to make love,
00:36:18 and then I'd like you to go.
00:36:21 Because I need to stay here,
00:36:22 and if you make it hard for me,
00:36:24 I might cry so hard
00:36:59 Go now.
00:37:03 Go now.
00:37:48 "All of the officers
00:37:49 "were from outside
00:37:51 "and it probably had not
00:37:53 "that almost all of us
00:37:55 "Nobody moved except for
00:37:57 The red roo"...Hey.
00:38:00 - Hello, there.
00:38:02 How's Mrs. Andersson?
00:38:04 I'm wondering if I could have
00:38:06 a moment of your time
00:38:08 Oh, sure. I was just
00:38:10 Maybe when we finish this chapter,
00:38:11 I can come find you
00:38:13 Sure. That's fine.
00:38:17 "The red roof lights
00:38:20 and even the dogs were
00:38:36 Hi, there, Mr. Andersson.
00:38:40 Going down the center
00:38:42 That's Frank. He used to be the play-by-play
00:38:45 - Really?
00:38:47 He loved his job too much to retire.
00:38:50 Frank's on the second floor.
00:38:56 I just... My wife has always been
00:39:03 I've been told that Alzheimer's can't be
00:39:08 And on our way here today,
00:39:10 we passed this conservation area
00:39:12 where we went
00:39:15 And there were these gorgeous flowers.
00:39:17 Oh, those are
00:39:19 Yes, they really made
00:39:22 And even though the whole
00:39:24 she said, "Oh, remember?"
00:39:28 Now, that was...
00:39:31 And isn't the short-term memory
00:39:35 Well, yeah, but not all at once.
00:39:39 And what's comforting
00:39:40 is the long-term memory sometimes
00:39:46 Yeah, her long-term memory
00:39:49 But when she mentioned that,
00:39:52 it was all I could do not
00:39:55 What if this is just her
00:40:01 She's far too young to...
00:40:05 She is young.
00:40:07 And it is hard.
00:40:09 No doubt about that.
00:40:12 A month is a real long time.
00:40:17 I mean, between you and me,
00:40:20 I think it makes it easier for the staff
00:40:23 Look. I'll give you my pager number.
00:40:28 You can call me
00:40:30 You can call me every day
00:40:36 I don't know what to do.
00:40:39 Mr. Andersson,
00:40:42 and she asked me to pass it along.
00:40:54 Okay.
00:41:01 Thank you so much.
00:41:27 "Throughout much of the thinking brain,
00:41:30 gooey plaques now crowd neurons
00:41:37 "And knotty tangles
00:41:39 mangle microtubal transports
00:41:52 "All told, tens of millions
00:41:59 "Because the structures
00:42:01 "are so highly specialized,
00:42:03 "the precise location
00:42:07 determines what specific abilities
00:42:17 "It is like a series
00:42:22 in a large house,
00:43:23 That's a great-Iooking coffee maker.
00:43:25 I always meant to get one of those.
00:43:29 I saw they had them on sale
00:43:32 They gave it to us, my son and his wife.
00:43:35 They live in Kamloops, B.C.
00:43:37 They send us more stuff
00:43:41 Wouldn't hurt if they spent the money
00:43:46 I suppose they're busy
00:43:49 Not so busy they couldn't
00:43:51 I mean, you could understand it
00:43:53 if there was someone
00:43:55 but, uh... he's the only one.
00:44:03 People do get Ionely,
00:44:06 especially when they're deprived
00:44:14 Fiona, for instance.
00:44:19 My wife.
00:44:20 I thought you said
00:44:25 I do.
00:44:27 No, that's not it.
00:44:30 She's really settling in well.
00:44:32 Good. Good.
00:44:34 Looking forward to seeing you tomorrow,
00:44:35 Right. So I'll see you
00:44:38 Now, remember,
00:44:43 Don't be shaken by that.
00:44:44 Just... She hasn't seen you in a while.
00:44:47 She's sort of settled in here.
00:44:51 I understand.
00:45:04 There you are. I'll walk you down to her.
00:45:08 Wow. Narcissus this early.
00:45:11 You must have spent a fortune.
00:45:13 We brought it back here.
00:45:15 It's great to see you.
00:45:17 I'm gonna help you find
00:45:20 All right. Here we are.
00:45:23 You remember from last time
00:45:26 Her nameplate's right on the door.
00:46:08 There she is. Now you just
00:46:12 and try not to startle her...
00:46:15 Well, just go ahead.
00:46:36 Bridge. Deadly serious.
00:46:39 Quite rabid about it.
00:46:42 I can remember being like that
00:46:45 My friends and I would cut class
00:46:50 and play like cutthroats.
00:46:53 One's name was Phoebe.
00:46:54 I don't remember the others.
00:46:56 Phoebe Hart.
00:46:57 Oh, you knew her, too.
00:47:00 Can I get you something?
00:47:03 I'm afraid the coffee's
00:47:05 I don't drink tea.
00:47:07 Oh.
00:47:09 I brought you some flowers.
00:47:10 I thought they might do
00:47:13 I went to your room,
00:47:15 Well, no, I'm here.
00:47:21 So you've made a new friend.
00:47:23 Oh, that's just Aubrey.
00:47:26 The funny thing is I knew
00:47:31 He used to work in the store,
00:47:32 the hardware store where
00:47:36 He and I were always kidding around,
00:47:39 but he never could get up
00:47:42 Until the very last weekend,
00:47:45 But my grandpa showed up
00:47:50 I was up visiting for the summer.
00:47:53 Visiting my grandparents.
00:47:56 They lived in a cottage on a lake.
00:48:00 Fiona, I know where
00:48:03 It's where we lived. We live.
00:48:06 Really?
00:48:09 I'd better go back.
00:48:11 He thinks he can't play
00:48:13 It's silly. I hardly
00:48:16 I'm afraid you'll have
00:48:18 Will you be through soon?
00:48:19 We should be. I mean, it depends.
00:48:21 If you asked that grim-Iooking
00:48:24 she'll get you a cup of tea.
00:48:28 - No, I'm fine.
00:48:29 You can entertain yourself?
00:48:33 But you'll be surprised
00:48:35 You'll get to know who everybody is,
00:48:38 except that some of them
00:48:42 Can't expect them all
00:50:03 Hey, I've been thinking of dying my hair.
00:50:06 Do you think I'd look
00:50:28 You caught her at sort of a bad moment,
00:50:30 She isn't even playing.
00:50:33 Well, but her friend's playing, Aubrey.
00:50:35 Now, who is Aubrey?
00:50:36 That's who he is, Aubrey.
00:50:38 You know, they get
00:50:40 That kind of takes over for a while.
00:50:42 Best buddy kind of thing.
00:50:43 Sort of a phase.
00:50:46 Does she even know who I am?
00:50:49 No, she might not.
00:50:51 Not today, and then,
00:50:55 Things change back and forth all the time.
00:50:57 You'll see the way it is
00:51:00 You'll learn not to take it so personal.
00:51:02 Learn to take it day by day.
00:51:27 Oh, I'm sorry.
00:51:29 I'll have to go and fix that now.
00:52:00 Here's Yung Menenikenaha,
00:52:02 desperately clinging
00:52:06 Here's the swing.
00:52:07 It doesn't look good.
00:52:09 Looks like he's pushed it
00:52:12 It lands 25 feet from the green.
00:52:14 This must be disappointing.
00:52:15 It doesn't look good
00:52:18 He was three strokes
00:52:20 until these last three holes.
00:52:25 Look at you, Mr. Andersson.
00:52:29 I think you might be
00:52:40 Hi, Fiona.
00:52:42 Oh, you are persistent, aren't you?
00:52:44 I brought you some books.
00:52:46 They don't seem to have
00:52:48 Letters from Iceland by Auden.
00:52:50 We always meant to read that together,
00:52:54 Do you think it'd be possible to talk alone?
00:52:56 Well, I don't know.
00:52:57 Um, Aubrey's card game
00:53:00 and then we usually go walking,
00:53:02 and then he does his drawing...
00:00:03 Um, I'll stay here.
00:00:05 Or I'll come back in a few hours.
00:00:07 Oh, you are persistent,
00:00:31 Up comes Kapanen... Boy, oh, boy!
00:00:32 Here we are at the Spectrum in Philadelphia.
00:00:34 It's sudden-death overtime.
00:00:36 Here are the Leafs again,
00:00:38 He carries it over the blue line,
00:00:40 winds up a shot right on!
00:00:41 The bounce, the rebound
00:00:43 McCabe couldn't get to it.
00:00:45 It goes back on the left wing
00:00:46 and here come the Flyers
00:00:48 Roenick and Mitchell, what a twosome
00:00:51 A shot right on!
00:00:52 - Go for it, Frank.
00:00:54 Here we go again. The Leafs again.
00:00:55 Here's Sundin carrying it
00:00:58 Can't get a shot away
00:01:00 A loose puck grabbed by Philadelphia
00:01:03 I just came down to say
00:01:05 if you'd like to, um, talk.
00:01:07 Oh, sure.
00:01:09 Can we go somewhere
00:01:11 ...the side with Mitchell.
00:01:13 If... If you'd like.
00:01:14 And Philly wins this series
00:01:17 That's it this season for the Leafs.
00:01:18 Look at Phil Hitchcock.
00:01:21 Philadelphia wins 3-2.
00:01:22 The game is over
00:01:45 Y-You said you had
00:01:47 This.
00:01:50 Letters from Iceland.
00:01:52 Yes, yes.
00:01:55 Yes. That's right.
00:01:58 Now... where is Iceland?
00:02:04 Well, Iceland is
00:02:09 It's an island.
00:02:12 Youngest country in the world.
00:02:15 It's constantly erupting.
00:02:17 Volcanoes, earthquakes.
00:02:20 It's always shaking itself off.
00:02:25 Wouldn't it be nice to come
00:02:28 You do. That's where you're from.
00:02:31 That's where
00:02:34 They immigrated here in the late 1800s.
00:02:38 But that's where you're from, Fiona.
00:02:41 And I teach... Well, I taught
00:02:46 Norse mythology.
00:02:47 l-I must have been there, then.
00:02:49 Have I been there?
00:02:51 No.
00:02:54 Oh.
00:02:55 Why not? Wasn't I curious?
00:02:58 You were very curious.
00:03:01 Very curious.
00:03:03 You always said
00:03:07 that you knew about
00:03:10 and maybe even longed for,
00:03:12 but you did never did get to see.
00:03:20 Did I say that?
00:03:23 Yes, you said that.
00:03:39 Well, I'd better go and see to Aubrey.
00:03:41 He'll be wanting a little
00:03:43 It was nice chatting.
00:03:45 You'll be back again
00:03:47 Fiona, what are you doing...
00:03:51 What are you doing with Aubrey?
00:03:55 He doesn't confuse me.
00:03:59 He doesn't confuse me at all.
00:04:05 Well, it's been nice chatting.
00:04:08 I'll see you again
00:04:30 These affections between residents,
00:04:35 Well, that depends
00:04:37 The problem we have here, it's funny.
00:04:40 It's actually often the ones
00:04:41 who haven't been friendly
00:04:44 I mean, they maybe
00:04:45 beyond knowing, like,
00:04:48 And you'd think it'd be the old guys
00:04:49 trying to crawl in bed
00:04:51 but half the time
00:04:52 It's the old ladies
00:04:55 It could be they aren't so worn out.
00:05:04 Now don't get me wrong.
00:05:09 Fiona is a lady.
00:05:11 She's a real lady.
00:05:15 I sometimes wonder...
00:05:18 You wonder what?
00:05:22 I wonder if she isn't putting on
00:05:27 A what?
00:05:29 Some kind of act.
00:05:32 Maybe some kind of punishment.
00:05:39 Why would she do that?
00:05:47 Oh.
00:06:16 Are you getting tired?
00:06:18 - No.
00:06:26 Excuse me.
00:06:29 Yes, Mr. Andersson?
00:06:31 How can I help you?
00:06:33 Fiona's wearing someone else's sweater.
00:06:35 Well, it's pretty, isn't it?
00:06:37 No, it's not pretty. It's tacky.
00:06:39 - She would never wear it.
00:06:42 You can talk to the duty attendant
00:06:45 Boy, it's a marvel, really,
00:06:47 the way she's getting him up
00:06:56 Can you manage?
00:07:00 Will you be all right?
00:07:01 I'll be back in a second.
00:07:06 Fiona, I'm your husband.
00:07:08 Fiona, it's Grant.
00:07:10 We've been married for 45 years.
00:07:12 Look at me, Fiona.
00:07:15 We had a good life together.
00:07:17 Those are your words,
00:07:20 That is not your sweater.
00:07:28 It's all right.
00:07:30 It's all right. It's all right.
00:07:33 I'm coming straight back.
00:07:35 I'm coming straight back.
00:07:36 It's going to be all right.
00:07:56 I'll see you again tomorrow, I suppose.
00:08:03 Please...
00:08:06 don't.
00:08:10 Please, please don't.
00:08:16 You're very persistent, aren't you?
00:08:24 I wish l...
00:08:27 Wish I knew what...
00:08:38 We'll see you again
00:09:21 You're not doing
00:09:24 Well, no big surprise.
00:09:26 What we're handling isn't so easy.
00:09:32 I thought when I married,
00:09:33 I'd be with someone to the final stretch.
00:09:36 I'm betting you thought the same.
00:09:40 Well, didn't work out.
00:09:45 So, I, uh, think
00:09:50 I'm the kind of person you can
00:09:57 I wonder if you would consider
00:10:00 maybe just for a visit.
00:10:03 Or I suppose I could take Aubrey
00:10:06 I wouldn't mind that at all.
00:10:13 Homemade.
00:10:21 Really?
00:10:25 No. No, I can't do that.
00:10:28 And the reason is
00:10:31 But wouldn't he understand
00:10:32 He understands everything.
00:10:35 Now, if I go to all that trouble,
00:10:37 I'd prefer to take him someplace
00:10:40 It would make more sense
00:10:43 where there are kids and whatnot.
00:10:44 And then I'd have to get him all ready,
00:10:46 maneuver him into the car.
00:10:48 He's a big man. He's not that easy to manage.
00:10:50 Even if I agreed to do it?
00:10:52 You couldn't do it.
00:10:53 You couldn't manage him.
00:10:55 And he wouldn't stand
00:10:57 And after all that, what would he get out of it?
00:11:24 Smoke?
00:11:25 No. No, thanks.
00:11:27 What, did you never,
00:11:29 I quit.
00:11:31 How long ago?
00:11:32 Oh, 30 years, maybe more.
00:11:37 I quit quitting.
00:11:40 Just made a resolution to quit quitting,
00:11:45 So your wife's depressed, huh?
00:11:49 What's her name again? I forget.
00:11:51 Fiona.
00:11:52 And how old were you when you met?
00:11:54 She was 18.
00:11:57 Holy, that's pretty young
00:12:03 Wasn't my idea.
00:12:05 You mean she proposed to you?
00:12:07 Well, that's lovely,
00:12:08 How'd she do it?
00:12:09 She hadn't planned it necessarily.
00:12:12 We were in Tobermory
00:12:15 and it was miserable and rainy,
00:12:18 and she was in a good mood.
00:12:22 She didn't want any part
00:12:24 And what'd she do, what'd she say?
00:12:26 Well, she said,
00:12:31 Do you think it'd be fun
00:12:34 And what did you say?
00:12:36 I took her up on it.
00:12:37 I shouted yes.
00:12:44 I never wanted
00:12:49 She had the spark of life.
00:12:53 You know, nothing can take away
00:12:55 what's happened to you
00:12:59 I don't think so, anyway.
00:13:01 Even if it goes away somehow,
00:13:06 It's still what you are.
00:13:10 It's curious.
00:13:11 What's curious?
00:13:12 All of that "madly in love" business.
00:13:16 The beginning.
00:13:17 I hear myself tell the story,
00:13:24 I suppose it is.
00:13:26 But compared to what we ended up with,
00:13:28 until recently...
00:13:33 all of that seems
00:14:16 Not such a fun place to visit, eh?
00:14:20 Excuse me?
00:14:21 Not such a fun place to visit.
00:14:24 Fucking depressing.
00:14:28 No offense.
00:14:29 None taken.
00:14:32 No one came to visit you, huh?
00:14:35 That must suck huge.
00:14:37 Well, it would suck huge,
00:14:40 I'm just visiting someone.
00:14:43 Who? Which one?
00:14:45 Beautiful woman with the shock of hair.
00:14:48 The one sitting with her husband?
00:14:49 - You might say that.
00:14:52 I wouldn't say that
00:14:56 So why aren't you sitting with her, then?
00:15:02 Just learned to give her some space.
00:15:05 She's in love with that man
00:15:07 I don't like to disturb her.
00:15:09 I just like to see her, I suppose.
00:15:12 Make sure she's
00:15:18 I suppose that must seem
00:15:23 I should be so lucky.
00:15:31 Come on.
00:15:56 She's not here.
00:15:58 She's sick.
00:15:59 He's not here, either.
00:16:29 I brought you a book.
00:16:33 It's all about Iceland.
00:16:35 Thought you might like to take a look at it.
00:16:37 Why, thank you.
00:16:40 Oh, what is it, dear heart?
00:16:43 What is it? Oh, I see.
00:16:46 Here. Here. Here.
00:16:48 Here, here, yes.
00:16:53 Do you by any chance have
00:16:56 I've seen you talking to them.
00:17:01 Oh.
00:17:06 We'll get to see each other.
00:17:07 You'll see. We have to.
00:17:11 I'll come and see you,
00:17:14 and you'll come and see me.
00:17:23 You know, I just wish his wife
00:17:26 I wish she'd get him out of here
00:17:29 Should I stay?
00:17:31 Don't worry. She's not sick, you know.
00:17:35 To keep her company.
00:17:37 Well, they have to learn to get
00:17:39 They've got short memories,
00:17:45 Okay?
00:18:12 Fiona. Her name is Fiona.
00:18:15 And what's yours?
00:18:17 I don't think I was ever told that.
00:18:20 Oh, I'm sorry. It's Grant.
00:18:24 Hello, Grant.
00:18:27 I'm Marian.
00:18:32 Well, now that we know
00:18:35 I can tell you straight out what I'm thinking.
00:18:39 I don't know if he's still
00:18:44 seeing Fiona.
00:18:45 I don't ask him, he doesn't tell me.
00:18:48 But I don't feel like
00:18:51 in case it turns out
00:18:54 I don't want him
00:18:56 I don't have any help. It's just me here.
00:19:00 I'm it.
00:19:01 It is very hard for you.
00:19:02 Did... Did you ever consider
00:19:05 No. I'm keeping him right here.
00:19:08 Well, that's very good
00:19:11 Oh, you think so?
00:19:12 Well, noble is not
00:19:16 No, but it isn't easy.
00:19:18 No, it isn't, but I don't have a choice.
00:19:20 If I pay to put him in there,
00:19:24 and the house is the only thing
00:19:29 And it means a lot to me,
00:19:33 It's very nice.
00:19:35 Well, I guess it's all right.
00:19:38 I've done a lot on it,
00:19:42 Yes, I can see
00:19:44 - I don't want to lose it.
00:19:45 - I'm not going to lose it.
00:19:48 See, the company
00:19:50 In the end, they said
00:19:57 What do I think?
00:20:02 But I'm not supposed
00:20:07 You've been married, huh?
00:20:08 I mean, you are married.
00:20:13 And then, in the middle of all this,
00:20:15 he gets sick from this virus,
00:20:24 So that pretty much
00:20:31 It's bad luck.
00:20:34 It's, no, just life.
00:20:40 Can't beat life.
00:20:43 No.
00:20:56 Oh. Hello.
00:21:38 Perhaps you'd like me to read to you.
00:21:42 I don't have any books.
00:21:47 Oh, there are some.
00:21:51 Letters from Iceland.
00:22:02 "Isn't it true,
00:22:04 "into our provinces
00:22:07 "where our regrets accuse,
00:22:11 "back to the common faith
00:22:13 "from which we've all dissented,
00:22:15 "back to the hands,
00:22:19 "Children are always there
00:22:23 "even when they are most terrified.
00:22:24 "Those in love cannot
00:22:29 "Artist and doctor return most often.
00:22:32 "Only the mad will never,
00:22:35 "For doctors keep
00:22:38 "in case their skill
00:22:43 "Lovers have lived so long
00:22:46 "they want belief again
00:22:50 "And the artist prays ever so gently,
00:22:53 "'Let me find pure
00:22:57 "'Only uniqueness is success.
00:23:00 "'For instance,
00:23:04 "'AII that I push away
00:23:08 today's and yesterday's alike,
00:23:12 To all the men and women
00:23:14 now in the Middle East,
00:23:17 and the hopes of an oppressed people
00:23:22 How could they forget Vietnam?
00:23:24 The air strike started again
00:23:26 and lasted for three hours.
00:23:28 Roadside explosions have killed
00:23:42 Here you go.
00:23:45 Next time you do it, just go pick it up, okay?
00:23:53 Her muscles are deteriorating.
00:23:56 If she doesn't improve soon,
00:23:57 we're going to have to
00:24:00 I keep trying to get her walking,
00:24:01 but she doesn't seem
00:24:03 But, you know, once they get on a walker,
00:24:07 and then they don't want
00:24:09 just get wherever it is they have to go.
00:24:12 You're going to have to
00:24:14 Try and encourage her.
00:24:16 Sorry.
00:24:23 Here you go.
00:24:36 Mrs. Andersson.
00:24:38 How would you like to go on a field trip?
00:25:21 They've kept it so like it was.
00:25:26 Who has?
00:25:29 The people who live here.
00:26:38 But everything...
00:26:46 Everything just reminds me of him.
00:26:51 It wasn't enough, I suppose.
00:26:55 Who, Fiona?
00:26:58 Who does everything remind you of?
00:27:19 I'd like to go home now,
00:27:28 Now, as you know,
00:27:29 we don't do extended care
00:27:32 I mean, we do it temporarily
00:27:36 But if they progress too far,
00:27:40 we have to consider
00:27:47 Do you happen to have Aubrey's address?
00:27:50 I'm sorry?
00:27:54 Aubrey and his wife.
00:27:58 Where do they live?
00:28:16 Well, it was probably a mistake
00:28:20 but I wasn't going to get another chance
00:28:25 Well, so...
00:28:28 Now I know better.
00:28:33 Did your husband ever
00:28:36 in the summers
00:28:38 No, I never heard about that.
00:28:42 But I wasn't raised here.
00:28:45 No. I didn't think so.
00:28:55 Thank you very much
00:28:58 It's Marian.
00:29:01 Sorry.
00:29:12 What a jerk.
00:29:33 Yeah, maybe someone
00:29:35 like, if the nurse is around.
00:29:36 All right.
00:29:39 No, I don't think there's much to it,
00:29:40 but I'd like you to call me back.
00:29:42 Okay.
00:29:44 Thanks a lot. Bye-bye.
00:29:46 - Hey.
00:29:52 I think I want to ask you
00:29:57 just to know a little more about it.
00:30:00 Well, it's for people
00:30:09 What do they do, then?
00:30:12 What happens after that?
00:30:16 You don't really want to know.
00:30:18 But, you know,
00:30:20 They go into their room for a year,
00:30:23 and then one day, it's,
00:30:25 I mean, all of a sudden,
00:30:28 But it doesn't last for long.
00:30:29 You think,
00:30:31 and then they're gone again, like so.
00:30:37 I haven't even asked you
00:30:41 You married?
00:30:42 Well, technically, yeah, I guess.
00:30:45 Got three kids.
00:30:48 Their dad lives in Alberta, I think.
00:30:50 He's making it rich, maybe.
00:30:52 Must be quite a struggle.
00:30:54 It, uh... knocks the wind
00:30:58 but you just pick yourself
00:31:03 I suppose our lives
00:31:07 We got through life
00:31:10 What we have to suffer
00:31:14 hardly counts, I suppose.
00:31:15 That's what you must think.
00:31:21 Well, how would you
00:31:24 To tell you the truth, I'd rather be
00:31:26 the one that stayed
00:31:29 I'll bet you weren't always
00:31:32 Am I right?
00:31:34 I mean, you said that you wondered
00:31:37 if maybe she was punishing
00:31:42 I'll bet you had something
00:31:47 You know, you see a lot
00:31:53 You see the end of things
00:31:55 And in my experience,
00:31:57 it's almost always
00:31:59 that not too much went wrong.
00:32:02 I wonder if your wife
00:32:06 I wonder that, too.
00:32:09 I bet you do.
00:32:35 Uh, hello, Grant.
00:32:36 I hope I got the right person.
00:32:38 I just thought of something.
00:32:40 There is a dance here in town
00:32:44 and I am on the supper committee,
00:32:48 So I wondered whether you would
00:32:53 Call me back
00:32:55 555-3457.
00:33:02 I just realized I'd forgotten to say who it was.
00:33:06 Well, you probably recognize
00:33:09 It's Marian.
00:33:11 I'm still not so used
00:33:13 and I wanted to say
00:33:16 and I don't mean it that way.
00:33:18 I'm not, either.
00:33:19 But it doesn't hurt
00:33:22 Anyway, now I've said all this,
00:33:25 I really hope
00:33:27 It did sound like your voice.
00:33:29 If you're interested, you can call me.
00:33:31 And if you are not,
00:33:34 I just thought you might
00:33:39 It's Marian speaking.
00:33:42 I guess I already said that.
00:33:45 Okay, then. Good-bye.
00:33:52 "The desires of the heart
00:33:54 "are as crooked as corkscrews.
00:33:56 "Not to be born is the best for man.
00:33:59 "The second-best
00:34:02 The dance's pattern:
00:34:12 Fiona?
00:34:15 Is there any way to let this go...
00:34:17 do you think?
00:34:23 If I let it go, it'll only hit me harder
00:34:26 when I bump into it again.
00:34:34 Okay.
00:34:40 "Dance, dance, for the figure is easy.
00:34:43 The tune is catchy
00:34:49 "Dance till the stars
00:34:50 "come down from the rafters.
00:34:52 Dance, dance, dance
00:35:02 Yes?
00:35:03 Hello, Marian.
00:35:15 So...
00:35:19 There you are.
00:35:21 Here I am.
00:35:26 Thank you.
00:35:52 What are you thinking?
00:35:56 Not an awful lot, really.
00:36:00 Skiing.
00:36:05 Downhill?
00:36:08 Cross-country.
00:36:12 I'm more a thrill-seeker, I guess.
00:36:21 What are you thinking?
00:36:24 I'm thinking you never know
00:36:25 how things are going to turn out.
00:36:31 You almost know...
00:36:34 but you can never be quite sure.
00:37:12 Mr. Andersson?
00:37:20 Mr. Andersson?
00:37:22 Now, as you know, we're, uh,
00:37:24 we're going to have
00:37:26 Mrs. Andersson upstairs
00:37:29 She hasn't been out of that bed
00:37:31 I'm quite aware of your policies.
00:37:35 I'm more than aware
00:37:40 Well, once again, Nurse Kristy is taking me
00:37:44 The area to my right
00:37:46 and as we go on down the hall,
00:37:49 broken in a thousand pieces.
00:37:51 Well, we'll go to Madeleine's office,
00:37:53 Hopefully, they're serving right now.
00:37:55 The cannelloni
00:37:56 but let's see what it's doing today.
00:37:58 Let's have... I gotta have
00:38:00 That's what I'm going to do.
00:38:04 Wouldn't it be better if...
00:38:09 when we go out again,
00:38:12 to put Aubrey
00:38:15 Just for a day?
00:38:17 What do you think?
00:38:21 I'm thinking that sometimes you...
00:38:26 just have to make
00:38:33 Just decide.
00:38:36 Things aren't ever
00:38:40 Not ever, for anybody.
00:38:43 The only thing that separates
00:38:47 is there are some
00:38:51 and there are some who...
00:38:58 And which kind of person are you?
00:39:01 I was pretty mad about it.
00:39:04 But now...
00:39:07 Iooking at what came my way...
00:39:16 I think I could be
00:39:22 Quite the philosopher, huh?
00:39:28 Look, why don't you pull over here?
00:39:29 Just... pull over, could you?
00:39:49 I know what you're doing.
00:39:52 It would be easier for me
00:39:58 Do you think you could do that?
00:40:15 Now, what were we talking about?
00:41:01 She was the only one in her family
00:41:05 Now she can't remember how,
00:41:09 Her daughter?
00:41:11 Yeah.
00:41:13 It's left her pretty stranded.
00:41:15 Marooned.
00:41:19 You know, I thought of you the other day.
00:41:21 You know that billboard out in front
00:41:23 of the United Church in Bradford,
00:41:24 they post all that biblical-type stuff?
00:41:27 The other day, it said,
00:41:31 "It's never too late
00:41:32 to become what you
00:41:36 Doesn't sound all that biblical.
00:41:39 Well, maybe they're
00:43:05 See you soon, Aubrey.
00:43:47 Oh, yeah.
00:43:49 Thanks.
00:44:05 Thanks.
00:44:59 Would you mind
00:45:01 before you come in?
00:45:03 To explain things to her?
00:45:21 I found this beautiful book
00:45:24 You wouldn't think they'd leave
00:45:28 People who stay here
00:45:33 And I think they got
00:45:38 I never wear yellow.
00:45:48 I seem to remember you
00:45:53 You were trying
00:45:58 You tried so hard.
00:46:04 You're a lovely man, you know?
00:46:07 I'm a very lucky woman.
00:46:10 - Fiona?
00:46:13 Are we all checked out?
00:46:15 I have a surprise for you.
00:46:22 Do you remember Aubrey?
00:46:46 Names elude me.
00:47:00 I'm happy to see you.
00:47:07 You could've just driven away.
00:47:10 Just driven away
00:47:15 and forsook me.
00:47:20 Forsooken me.
00:47:23 Forsaken.
00:47:27 Not a chance.